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  • Writer's pictureMatthew Meleg

On Becoming an Individual

Updated: Feb 7

I have always been a proponent of individualism and am fascinated by creative and unique individuals like Salvador Dali, Coco Chanel and William Blake.

Above: The Catalonian Artist, Salvador Dali

The process to developing a unique mind is, in my humble opinion, a lot harder than most people tend to realize.

I can't say that I've developed a completely unique relationship with the universe, but I hope that I am on the right path.

Here's some observations and advice for those of you who wish to "go your own way."

First of all, becoming a true individual is super challenging because it involves forging a path that is unique to oneself, rather than following societal norms or expectations.

This is a journey that requires:

  • introspection

  • self-awareness

  • courage

It's fair to say that most people are fearful of the uncertainty and potential loneliness that can accompany this journey. **However, If you're like me, and thrive on self directed projects, loneliness may prove less of a problem than for most.

It's common to face resistance when expressing views that go against societal norms or expectations. Expect this.

Moreover, self-doubt and internal conflicts might arise when our authentic self differs from our self-image or how others perceive us.

Finally, becoming a true individual is an ongoing, never-ending process.

As we grow and evolve, so does our individuality. This journey towards selfhood can be strenuous, but it is also rewarding and fulfilling.

Above: The Self Made Man, by Bobbie Carlyle

Embracing individuality is a lifelong journey. Here are some steps to consider:

STEP ONE: Self-Awareness: This is the starting point. Understand who you are, your beliefs, values, passions, strengths, and weaknesses.

STEP TWO: Self-Expression: Don’t be afraid to express your thoughts, emotions, and beliefs, even when they go against the grain. True individuality entails standing up for what you believe in.

STEP THREE: Courage: Embrace the courage to be different. You'll often face criticism when you step away from societal norms, but remember that it's your life to live.

STEP FOUR: Independence: Strive to be self-reliant and make your own decisions. Seek advice when needed, but always make the final call yourself.

STEP FIVE: Continuous Learning and Growth: Embrace change and growth. Continuously learn new skills, gain new experiences, and broaden your perspective.

STEP SIX: Self-Care: Take care of your physical, mental, and emotional health. A healthy mind and body can provide the strength and resilience you need on this journey.

STEP SEVEN: Embrace Failure: Don’t be afraid of making mistakes; they're part of the process. Learn from them and move forward.

Good luck,


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